Dancing and not Marching
Each of my children are different. Their needs, their struggles, their motivations, their personalities, their issues are different. I need to be prayerful in the way I parent each of them. I need to seek God's heart for each of child. While it's important that I call sin, sin- I need to also make sure that my discipline and correction of them is not only in truth but also in grace.
My Lord corrects me daily. When I sin, He nudges me and shows me what I've done wrong. But He receives me back in grace. When my heart is repentant, He forgives me! I need to do the same. When my kids sin I cannot rehash the multiple times they have disobeyed in this area. My end goal as a parent is not obedient children. My desire as a parent is that my children learn to live by the Holy Spirit and learn to hear His voice in their lives. Outward obedience won't be enough in the long run. I can tell sometimes when my kids are obeying outwardly, but their heart isn't in it. It takes more time to sit down and talk about those issues of the heart.
I want to dance, not march. I want to grow in patience and gentleness as I lovingly direct my kids to the Lord. I believe this is what it means to parent with grace.